Living in another perspective.

LLiving in another perspective. I have been separated over a year now, in it I have cried a million tears, sat and ate ice cream out of a tub, dealt with the death of my brother. Oh yes my children left their private school, I now work, clean and have learnt names to do with a car that i am not to sure if I ever really cared to know. In it all I have learnt a lot about me. Through Scott's death I have seen truly I knew nothing about death nothing how someone felt or was going through. Maybe I thought I had compassion but in truth death can either change someone or make someone bitter. It has also helped me to have compassion for my mother in-law dare I say I even miss her at times. I value life differently. I see how a simple word of kindness can change a person how a smile can lighten a day. A hug is worth a million. I remember the day my brother died and I just cried in my friends arms. I also have seen a long my road of life I did not always make wise decisions, I never appreciated how hard my own husband worked to keep his job and to pay the bills. Nor value the times we spent together. So easy is it to pick fault than to just be quite and see the good in a person. Off course a long the road add a lawyer in the mix and life is never the same. It is so amazing just to want the best for a person regardless of what they say to you. To help a person if you do not know them. I helped a man gather a view shopping trolleys the other day his face smiled like I had given him the crown jewels. In fact he had given me them because he had made me see doing what is right is more rewarding than simply just ignoring it.No one has to be right all the time no one has to have the last word. So my life has changed I see life in a different way. I thank my brother Scott, God and some wonderful friends.My hope to you is that you do not have to go through anything that I have gone through just do what is right forgive and see the good instead of the bad in this life the bad will always out weigh the good.

Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Forgiven?

Forgiveness is what? Forgiveness is one of those cringy words, that cause us to either think or just say i have nothing to forgive. But come on you might not of liked that another person at school got to be the main role in a play or that you did not get where you wanted to in life because you feel someone else got there and you so deserved it. The issue is none of us deserve anything. God is gracious enough to forgive us only He sees true forgiveness it is not in our own eyes that anyone can forgive. I have thought about this with my brother dying it is not in just grieving but forgiving that Scott has died. I will never get to say Happy Birthday to him again nor hear him say I love you Lee or see his smile. Yet in my heart I have to say God knew best. I am not finding it easy. Nor in the fact i still need a full time job and soon I don't know if I will have medical. I do know for years I held onto a unforgiveness and the only person who got hurt was me.

Forgiveness is kind of like the white snow and the unforgiveness like the trash however if you let go of all that unforgiveness you are like the snowman a true work of art.
No road is easy but at least the road of forgiving brings hope to the person who is brave enough to say I forgive.
We all need to be forgiven.
Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Mighty is what?

Have you ever heard that is a mighty person either of God or they are so spiritual or so strong. May I suggest after much thinking about this that it might not be what we think. Perhaps mighty is someone who has gone through hard times and tried to turn their lives around perhaps mighty is a person who has seen the pain that others goes through and tries to reach their lives by reaching out to another person. Mighty might well be a person saying how are you and actually wanting to listen. Mighty could mean having a forgiving heart and wishing the best for someone. Mighty might well be seeing the pain in someones life and giving them hope. Simple words, you are doing great, I am proud of you. I care. To me that is mighty. It is like the ant small little creature but oh so mighty.
Whatever you think remember it is not always how we think mighty is so much more it is a heart willing to change willing to listen. It is like beautiful can be in a thunder storm or in a cob web or even as this harsh ice hit all of England this past February, it is in how you decide to see it.
Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Finding hope through hard times.

It is so difficult to often find hope when going through difficult times. Someone blessed us with food and said do not tell anyone. So I am not mentioning their name. They were so humble so genuine. The coroner officer who is dealing with my brothers death has been so sweet. Then there are certain friends that simply say do what is right. It is never easy to keep running a race when you feel that you are against all odds. What is humbling is to see people who are running the race in hard times helping others out and not expecting a single thing from it. In truth it is a lesson to learn. It is those people that are the hero's of today's times. Not the ones who simply offer help with a motive.

It is a lesson to learn and one to think about how often do we want the praise.

It is a lovely Autumn day I encourage you to think how you could bless one person this week and you not want the praise.

Don't forget England changes their clocks back tonight.

Happy Autumn.

Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Cake crumbs of kindness.

Have you ever gone into a store a tasted the samples that are out. I sure love those samples at a store called Whole foods the cheese is Magnifque yes not magnificent but Magnifique. Not just are the samples in this store Magnifique but the staff are amazing they treat you like you are the only person in the store. The customers even have picked up this trait. Not so in every store.
Yesterday we were in Lowes food the samples were out at the cake stand and yummy as always we each had some I even had some in my hand, my younger daughter went back for more the whole container fell to the floor. Her face fell like a frightened mouse about to be pounced on. I quickly came to her aid, I told her it is no big deal things happen. No one else came, a man who was with his child actually stood in our way making us feel like we were beggars on a street corner people looked and starred and did nothing. The Lady who sold the cakes said things happen and offered my daughter a cookie. My daughter felt embarrassed and hid her head into my tummy.
Anyone could of dropped that cake box anyone all of us our moments away from been that beggar on the street. It is like I wrote I believe at the beginning of the year or end of last year I saw in Walmart a man eating grapes I would of condemn him and the store probably a year before. But who am I.
I as a Christian should be the first to help and the first to pray and the first to walk a mile in another persons shoes. I have not always at all.
Ask me if I would of reacted to my daughter like that three years ago NO I would of been upset embarrassed. A lesson to learn is crumbs of kindness cost nothing but touch a heart for a long time.
Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Memories forever.

These our the last few pictures that I have of my brother and his family they were taken in July 2008. My brother and sister have never been very good at emailing photo's. My brother was doing up his very old house. He was very clever at reading up about things and then working out how to do them. He would of probably been a an amazing engineer.

His wife loved going on picnics.

Tonight I am taking some photos of them all to grief share I encourage anyone who is going through any grief maybe separation, moving or a death of a loved one to get involved in a group. My dear friend tried to reach out to Scott from America.

You never know how someones words may touch another persons life.

Memories are held in a photo but in our hearts forever. Do not grief alone.

I hold dear to the memories i have of many things.

May God bless you always.

Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Pink Daisy of Hope

This month is cancer awareness month. Before my sister in law Rita died of cancer I wrote a story about planting pink daisies for cancer patients. I never got to read my story to her. A group in Raleigh called Pretty in Pink loved it as yet it has not been published. We all can make a difference I am big into leaving something on this earth that can help others. My story was to help cancer patients. Your story maybe helping a elderly person across the road. Whatever it is we can all make a difference.
This tatty teddy with it's pink flower reminds me that although my sister in law died we can all spread hope and make those friends, relatives that we may lose to tragedy still count.
The other day I saw in my garden some daisies I felt so it was from Heaven. I have never seen little daisies here before. It was as if my brother had planted them for me
I encourage you what ever cause you believe in, to fight for it.
Make a difference and allow as I would like to say the Pink daisy of Hope to live.
Please have a cup of tea with me today.