Think once,twice and then again before you file divorce.

Think twice and then twice again. Actions speak louder than words I have heard that one all my life. So as I sit here I think back to many times when my emotions or what I thought was getting back at the world was justified. The older I have got the more I realize that one needs to think once, twice and then talk with someone that can see how your actions are going to affect another. In divorce actions hurt so many people. It is interesting if we took all that time into thinking how to build a marriage up or how to spend quality time with another perhaps the outcome would of been different. In truth we can spend more time in a divorce tearing the other down than perhaps we did in the marriage building the other up. My parents would of been married 58 years this year and me 20. Sad to say I never saw my parents spend quality time together and I can say the same that my ex spouse and I spent little quality time together. It is a tough road once you are on the road of divorce no one tells you to much about regrets or mistakes they made it is in general swept under the carpet and one often can focus on all the bad. If I look back at my parents marriage they were indeed very similar, if I look back on my own we had the qualities that the other needed but never bothered to see that. So my advice before you file think once, twice and then again. Once done the hurt the pain is in motion and to be honest you may live with that regret forever.