Emotions of a divorce last for years.

I came from a divorced home, so in writing this I see from both sides of the coin. Parents argue for years about the other. Some choose to see the good and rarely mention the other but that percentage is rare. The money spent in dissolving a marriage is huge and the money spent on a marriage can add up but the dissolving costs oh so much more. It is a time of sorrow of pain for many they dare not look back and realize that to find good instead of bad might resolve in owning their own mistakes and actually not signing their name to a piece of paper. How many of us would be sitting on a porch swings or a deck chair if we had just stopped and spent more time seeing the good. Off course life can change things. Many are put on medication to cure depression and such now a days, but I caution those who stay on that a long time. Personalities can change, what was reality is now distorted and perhaps where you got help for now is in fact a giant running your life. Because medicine and medicine alone does nothing. From what I have seen emotions and scares from a divorce last a life time. Yes some have found happiness. But deep down I beat many would just wish it all could of worked. It is not in blaming life and others but in perhaps realizing that the road of divorce is simply a road that divides and never meets again but that one continually see's in the distance.