Saturday, June 1, 2013

Lessons parents can learn from divorced children

Let me make it very clear. Single parents do not have it all together. If you think that then perhaps you need to take off the purple colored sunglasses and take a long hard look. Reality is simply that being a single parent is a tough job and not for the weak in heart.When a child is sick you have to deal with it and you alone forget about sleep after all it is so overrated.... When food needs to be done and you are married you may have the option of eating out,but in general not as a single parent every penny counts. Chores are often not given because some are stay at home mothers and even dad's and perhaps we feel bad when homework is building to expect things to be picked up, often just learning to be polite is put on the back shelf so as not to upset your dear child as you think or tell yourself you want the best. But is that? Where did Please and Thank you go? Reality is that most single parents have not got it all together many have trained themselves well to balance multiple jobs with little praise. One thing I have seen is that single mothers often give their children responsibilities that others may not give them. The chance to learn to make food, everyone pitching in to raise money to go out. The chance to learn to keep a clean house, or even the ability to understand the idea of a budget, wow now that is an idea. So as I type here perhaps children from divorced homes do have an edge over one's from parents that are together. Yes they both have valuable assets. But the assets of life and learning to get along with become not an option but a tool to learn how to solve issues and problems and those will go with them for life and single parents have to work at these issues daily with their children none can be swept under the carpet. So before you look the other way at a family who is now a single parenting family perhaps you should look and watch how well balanced many of those children are. See it is easy to sit back and not allow your children to grow up but single parents do not have that option they have to make sure that all is done and in doing that they can provide their children some valuable life lessons from cooking to gardening to budgeting. Perhaps indeed I could of been taught a lesson or two from a single parent.

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