Emotions of a divorce last for years.

I came from a divorced home, so in writing this I see from both sides of the coin. Parents argue for years about the other. Some choose to see the good and rarely mention the other but that percentage is rare. The money spent in dissolving a marriage is huge and the money spent on a marriage can add up but the dissolving costs oh so much more. It is a time of sorrow of pain for many they dare not look back and realize that to find good instead of bad might resolve in owning their own mistakes and actually not signing their name to a piece of paper. How many of us would be sitting on a porch swings or a deck chair if we had just stopped and spent more time seeing the good. Off course life can change things. Many are put on medication to cure depression and such now a days, but I caution those who stay on that a long time. Personalities can change, what was reality is now distorted and perhaps where you got help for now is in fact a giant running your life. Because medicine and medicine alone does nothing. From what I have seen emotions and scares from a divorce last a life time. Yes some have found happiness. But deep down I beat many would just wish it all could of worked. It is not in blaming life and others but in perhaps realizing that the road of divorce is simply a road that divides and never meets again but that one continually see's in the distance.

50/50 or perhaps the issue lies before marriage!!

Divorce in the Bible sure was warned against. But perhaps what is not talked about much in the Bible is how that affects the children involved. I like many others have come from a divorced home and to this day I often wish I could just go home where there is a mum and a dad. Easier said. Children and young people who have to deal with divorce really in my mind grow up very fast as if their childhood is taken away and they are counting down the minutes until 18 hits and they can have a voice in this crazy mess. Easy in court room settings to say 50/50 but much harder for the people living it. It is easy to say that you know best or a judge to cast a judgement on a situation that they hear for a moment in time. When raw emotions and the very children you brought into the world with love our now been ordered by a court judgement to do what may hurt them the most. No one looks at long term 5,10 or even 20 years from now. I wonder if you took a group of divorced kids and asked them to really say how they felt about their parents divorce what they would say. I would say the resounding message would be that they wanted security. Yet society brushes these facts to the side and money is made by lawyers and such a like. Perhaps the root of the issue is before the marriage more training in communications telling the couple you must go through a financial class and communications class before this land or any other will allow them to marry. You say that is harsh but isn't that what you are telling the many young people who are told you have to do this 50/50, this is what the courts feel is best for you. Perhaps if the issue was dealt with by the very adults who said "I do" to begin with less children, young people would be pushed in the middle of a court system that just see's their name on a piece of paper and selfish parents who will not see that life of their children is ticking by ever so quickly.

No one can do this life without God.

The older I get and the more I see how hard life can be for many wonderful people. I look in amazement how can a person do this all without God. In all what I have gone through one pillar stays faithful is my belief in One Almighty God who has never let me down. At times I wonder where He is and why oh God, but in those moments I know for sure if it was not for Him and Him alone I would be indeed lost. I have seen many things in my life many wave the flag that they are doing things because God told them, in truth it is nothing than their own selfish judgements and wants. It is the Christian who walks daily and wonders what would God want me to do that does not receive the glory but perhaps receives a crown when all is said and done. In my opinion of life one is only deceived if one thinks you can do life without God. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Life is but a fragment.

Many of us spend hours squabbling and arguing about petty little things. Many spend a lifetime in the court system making their point made known to the world. While time slips through our hands, like a water faucet with running water gushing. But time is but a fragment a wonderful waterfall that at a moment can stop, that beauty gone. Many say well someone else can look after that person or as long as I have the last say then all is well. In truth all is not well. Life slips through are hands and we are left perhaps with the convictions that maybe we should have just gone the extra mile, maybe not for the sake of duty but for the sake of what it can do for our own souls. I maybe just a cashier but I have had more joy given to me, by holding someone's hand smiling, sharing their grief, sorrow and love. Life is but a moment.Yet answer this how many moments have you wasted been bitter? Perhaps it is all justified but when all is said and done time has slipped by and you are older and others may have gone. Life is indeed a fragment, a vapor in time and yet what will we do in that vapor of time to make a difference?

Trials of life.

I took a test today I did not pass I failed to be honest I had to make 75% I made 44% I sat crying in my car driving aimlessly around a city. But in all my tears and nearly fogged up sunglasses I had told God I don't want anything in my life unless it is truly what you want. I knew in myself I had answered questions the way they should of been answered before and now in my heart I told God I would rather be poor than have something that you don't want for me. But God please get me home to see my family in England and please provide for me and my family. I don't want to always be asking but God please see my heart. As I sat doing test after test at home I realized one thing if we come to realize that God is everything then perhaps in that moment He takes the reins and makes something out of nothing. My the trials for me have been long and long and I so have cried so many tears. Yet inside I see how God has changed little old me. Perhaps next week I will past this test perhaps not,but one thing I do know through all the years I have lived God still cares for me. You might not see it and as I type this I am saying God don't forget how much I want to go home and please God remember me. He does see it all and I do believe He will make away.It is like the picture below it is drift wood to some quite ugly but to me I found it absolutely beautiful. What Man says is impossible God says He can and He will. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Do churches just really live by their mission statements.

A friend said to read a churches mission statement and see if they are living it. To be honest I had never heard of a mission statement. Perhaps in reflection we all should have a mission statement to live by. It would appear many churches require a certain dress code, which I can understand to a certain degree,but say if you do not have enough money for a suit or a dress from the mall? Perhaps all you can afford is a pair of jeans with holes in them. What would Jesus do would He still accept them or look the other way? Is a church there to meet our own needs of society with loud music and words that no one can understand unless you are a scholar? Do the young have to be reached by merely going to loud concerts? I think to me Jesus reached us where we are at, He made it so anyone could understand. I love what I read about C.S.Lewis when Christians would say that they are saved...from what? It is a phrase I have used but now I see it is not in a word saying that you are saved it is in seeking God so that we can be more like Him, we ask Christ into our lives so that the world through are actions can see Christ. Listen some days I do not do good at this but it should be something as Christians we strive to do. So in searching the truth about where to worship God, perhaps the question lies in do churches just meet our need and who are they trying to reach out to. Words are just words unless a person can understand them and going to church does not make you a Christian it is indeed living out your mission statement that you have decided your Christian life will be in believing in a true and living God. Been a Christian is not a free ride it is mission for life and life to come.It is not in how big a church you worship in or how grand it is. It is in searching ourselves to draw us closer to a God that died for us.

In God who we trust is that just words .... or do you live it.

As I sit here, I am reminded how much I use to take for granted. Kids in private schools, going home every two years, buying groceries where I wanted and not counting the pennies as much as I do now and having medical insurance. It's amazing I find myself praying for the grocery bill to be less and the gas pump to stop at a certain price. I find myself seeing life in a moment of why are so many people hurting and why do so little have compassion. The word help surely was not just like the movie The Help which was an amazing movie in more ways than just a hiring of domestic help, it surely means reaching out. Yet many in today's society cry help and take from Government programs do nothing to change their lives, while others who need the help slip through the cracks. I was shocked horrified to be honest that the court system offers little help if any to those who genuinely need Help. Perhaps in truth I should stand in the court house offering to clean their floors, would then I be offered help. It is not like that. Doors close and you have to find peace in yourself That this world has nothing to give and that people our mere mortals who seek mainly to please themselves, but their is a God who see's it all. As I sit today a little homesick a little down that my life has not been a bed of roses,more like a bed of roses bushes with thorns. I am reminded that in praising God in the storms and for the little things, that God see's little me. One can never find peace in Government where mere humans run the chaos,it is only in God that one can know in Him alone will one find peace. In God we trust, I wonder as I read that statement that Americans have said so many times.. Is that a statement to those who are rich or for all who enter her lands.I think it is a question many should ask. It is more than just words on a paper or money, one has to live it and how hard is it if you have money coming out of your ears so to speak. The challenge is to those of us who cry when the bill comes in and is less or an answer to a prayer, it is not as easy as just sitting in a chair and signing one's name. Better to be the woman like in the movie The Help, than the woman she worked with who in truth had nothing.