Grace Today.

The last few weeks, my mum has not been very well. It has been a pull of the heart, seeing if she is getting help and knowing that I cannot go home. One thing I know is that grace surely needs to be given to all of us. It is so easy to make harsh comments that a person should be in a home or judge someone else I often do this. But with my mum I appear to have lots of grace. Maybe it is a lesson for me to love others like I do her. I think if there was more grace the world would be a better place. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Mum's

I use to be told "why do you call yourself Mum that is a flower?" Yes indeed in America but not in England. Mum to me is a endearing word. My mum has not been perfect indeed she has had her faults throughout the years, but come on who hasn't. I have some

how learnt through God's grace to ignore things and focus on the good. It at times has not been easy. But my love for my mum is huge. It is like an ocean and although I am miles away. My heart cares so much for her. Mums carry a lot some our single parents balancing a job and home and every burden under the sun along with the pressure of their own lives. Yet still they carry on for the love of their children. Mums often need us in life as they grow old. It is knowing that they are not a burden and that even in their old age that you will not farm them off to a home or turn your back. I am not saying for some this is easy but I am saying better to keep on trying than stand at a funeral doing in your mind what is right. Anyone can stand at a funeral but it takes courage to help someone when you know in your mind they don't deserve it. Let's face it none of us deserve grace but Christ showed us. So if you can find it in yourself show some grace to your mum it will mean the world. Please have a cup of tea with me today. Love you Mum

Grieving

I have often cried a tear or two for my brother, even missing England and for my marriage. But today I heard a sermon which made me thinking perhaps in true grieving perhaps in seeing my part and crying over what i had done, this was my door to find happiness.I am sure we all can look back and say we could all of done things better we often in life say that, but never truly come to grips with grieving and crying for things we did wrong. I think once we do that we have to daily tell ourselves I laid this down at Jesus's feet and I am forgiven. In that I believe God meets us and brings us to a better place where He holds us tight and says to us Well done I am going to help you now. So what will you do. I use to say I was hurt and I mourned and I said sorry a million times for what I thought I did but I never came to grips in seeing it how Christ did to cry like I did the day my brother died. The choice is yours. Not easy, but oh so much better than crying alone. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Churches lack to reach the divorced community.

It amazes me in a county where there are churches on every corner, that in my view they do little to reach the divorced community. I have seen divorced care groups and some even have get together and Bible studies.I have seen one where they mentor to boys from divorced families. But where is the mentoring for those who struggle with coming to terms with that loss in their lives or just taking those people out and hearing their story so that can feel that they are not alone? Where are the groups for the girls to let them know that there are still knights in shinning armor and that they are still beautiful? Who is there on Christmas or Thanksgiving when your children are at the other parent's who is there when night terrors come and sleepless nights of not knowing how to pay the bills or just wondering where your life is going? I started a group on facebook about two years ago with the hope that one day I would approach companies to sponsor a retreat where these families could feel just for a day that those burdens would be lifted off their shoulders. But surely I cannot be the only person who see's a dying need to meet these people. I have seen the loneliness in men, women and children from a divorce, crippling and sad it touches me to the bone. Where are the churches where are the people to help??? Don't get me wrong I have been blessed to have a lot of help, but at times it has been a huge burden to walk by myself. There are churches doing somethings. But many people slip through the gap and these people often become lost and depressed. Sadly not enough is being done. If you are feeling lost please join forces and reach out to others. Perhaps together we can do something I hope so. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

We need each other

As a divorced woman I find it very hard to think that I will ever remarry. Perhaps many others feel the same. I have also found it hard not to give up caring for a person that I was married to for eighteen years. But a few things I have learnt down this road is that bitterness only causes more aching and a broken heart, forgiveness in time heals you. Asking for help is not a crime, judging others is. Been you is the best, thing you can give yourself and give yourself a break every now and again. Bills will always be there but you don't always have to have a new pair of shoes go to a secondhand place and you get two for the price you would pay for not even one. Been sent gifts from home is not you been a burden it is someone caring for you. Hugs are from Heaven and dancing in the rain brightens the soul. Taking time to sit down is alright the housework will always be there but your time to take a few minutes to breath is valuable to you making it through another day. So there are a few things I have learnt. I hope it helps you in whatever you are going through. Each of us need each other and each of our roads are very different,

but one lesson for sure is that we need each other. And I am thankful that you are on this road with me. Please have a cup of tea with me.

Fly high brother

My brother died two years ago today. So for him I am posting a picture of a plane. My brother always wanted to be a pilot and he loved flying. He always said he would fly me to Paris one day.So for all who have lost someone close I pray that they are flying high. Miss you Scott Love Lee

In our silence we can find peace.

It will be 2 years on Tuesday since my brother died. I still remember how I cried, how I ached down to my very soul. How at times I still ache. But in the silence of life... I stop to cherish moments about my brother and understand that in the silence we can find peace. When I was handed divorce papers I remember my heart sinking my soul breaking... yet in the silence I felt God standing there. When I have been through hard times if I just stop and cast my aching heart out to God... then I find peace.Like walking along a beach in a storm even in the storm you can find a peace that you are not alone. So stop and listen in your storm there is one much bigger to carry you and He can give you peace. Thank you God for being with me through my many storms and aching moments. Please have a cup of tea with me.