Daddy..I will always love you..please say you will always love me !!

My dad and i use to go for walks, and play peaking out of a window game. He never dressed up as Father Christmas, i choice to not have him give me away when I got married and he has never seen my children. Yet how many women young and old can truly say all they want to hear is their Dad say that He loves them and then perhaps say that they are sorry. We all mess up,don't get me wrong but the lessons of being a parent are huge. It is in simple things like listening in admitting you were wrong at times and seeing that life is not all about yourself but actually giving back of yourself and seeing someone live a better life than you perhaps did. It is in just being there with your whole heart no excuses not saying a word but giving with no cost but a heart of compassion and brokenness and hearing what your child really has to say. It is as if time has stopped and you get a moment to not reclaim years but to make peace with all the tears you have cried inside. Yet so many parents do not cross this road, is it pride, is it their own insecurities or is it just their own doubt that perhaps in listening and allowing another to share their pain and that person being the very person they brought into the world that they might not be loved. I tell you in listening in being venerable one allows God to stop the world and you learn to have compassion you learn that to love one most carry another's burdens and to love your own child you must lay down your own self to hear the broken cries of so many children/adults who cry from their hearts Daddy I will always love you... please say you will always love me. It is simple men however old we as women and girls are we all just want a dad to listen and just truly love us. One that says That's my girl and says truly with a humble heart I am proud of my girl and I will always love you... So will you Man up or will you watch your son or daughter cry alone.. Your choice... but let me tell you time waits for no man and it does not wait for you.

Blessing others, lets all get involved.

It is so easy to get caught up in our own worries and not bless others. But there are some very simple things we can do that cost little if anything. A phone call,a letter sent email or an actual letter. If you are in a place where you can bless someone then do so, God entrusted you with that money not for you to be greedy. Give without adding how you are blessing them and how you are on a tight budget do it because it is right. Offer to cut the grass or clean someone's house or even baby sit or walk someone's dog. Stop looking in and more out. Cook a meal, clean a kitchen, clean someone's car buy some flowers. The list could go on. Every day many people and children go without food. Starbucks and many other stores that brew up coffee every single day throw away their coffee grains you can get these for free just go by and ask and these can be used on gardens and compost heaps. Every day food stores chuck out bread and food. Some is given to food banks, but go by see if you can get some and bless a family. Food stores that cut up fruit for fruit bowls chuck up peel every single day. This can be used to feed pigs etc or even on a compost heap. Food stores chuck out slightly bruised foods. We have become such perfect orientated that we cannot simply cut out a bruise on an apple. Food stores chuck out vegetables and fruit that have some rotten one's in that batch. By simply going through it and sorting it out you can bless others. Please note that with fruit and vegetables they must be washed before freezing and used for consumption. By simply going to stores and reaching out to others you can look beyond your circumstance and find blessing. I challenge you to do so. http://www.feeding5k.org/ The link above is based in England and simply is a challenge. I truly encourage you to make a difference because we all can.

The yoyo game of a heart....!!

In life we all want that one person that loves us, that buy's flowers for us and that makes us feel so special. The problem is with that when a person becomes divorced is that one is often drawn to people who have the very same attributes that you left behind. Also one word of kindness does not mean someone has changed it is simply one word. One holds onto that one word allowing that one word to be like God had spoken it Himself and wanting to think that we are normal again. You want that pressure of not having to wonder if money is paid in or if silly mental games are been played. It is a yoyo and perhaps in truth we allow it. We are so low on love so to speak like a car running out of fuel that we want our love tank of kind words and expressions to be filled by love that in truth all we are filling it up with is air and water and more issues arise. Children and young people face this if they are from a divorced home. It is almost like liking a kid at school that is unreachable a guy on the football team so to speak he smiles and your like he loves me when reality he is cheating on every girl he has ever dated. Perhaps as I type this it is more important in these times to plough our minds into a God who never changes and to find people that direct us to true love. The Bible says in 1 cor 13:1-13 how love is patient and talks in depth what love is and is not. I believe in normal words what is says is this Love is not a person at a masquerade ball, love is not a yoyo or a deceiver love is not a bowl been hit on a rope and going no where, love does not play games that are only played to hurt the other and love is not their to make you feel lonely and empty and unloved. No love is none of those so why are we drawn to that love. It is simply because we are so wanting love that we forget and ignore what love truly is I say to you reading this, pick up the armor of righteousness and stand firm in who you are in God. Because all the rest is but a lie from the devil and we are so much better than the devil's lie. A rose is who you are not a piece of trash so don't forget that if God's son died for you then we need to hold onto that He loves us enough to truly love us how we should be loved in perfect love. So remember you are not a yoyo but you are perfectly and wonderfully made in God's image and He loves you. You are not alone and your love is perfect in Him.

The blaming game... oh so grow up PLEASE.

Ever just blamed someone for something you have done...sure you have, I have. Easier to not to live in conviction that you might be wrong and need to have your attitude checked. Easy in life to think that by doing certain things that one gets gratification in the way that you think you should. The problem is with that, that is your expectations are so high and the other problem no one can read your mind. It is easy to blame everyone else, but as children grow up this becomes a problem in an adult who has learnt as a child perhaps to blame others and not be held accountable. Saying sorry is one thing. Actions need to be followed through and it is that, that makes you a man or a woman of integrity. In today's world we have almost brought up a society of finger pointing immature children in adult body's. As a society we have made people blaming another an acceptable thing. In court room settings the finger pointing carries on to an extent that the integrity of another is destroyed. Someone who holds themselves accountable is looked as perhaps weak but in truth they are the person that society needs to be turning to and moving towards. The name blame game is looked at in children as a thing not to do yet in adults it is acceptable. I say where have all the people of integrity gone where has a man or woman gone who will take full accountability for their actions and not point the finger but say when they are wrong expecting nothing in return other than the knowledge that doing what is right is all that matters with or without praise. Grace is indeed being not the name blaming person but taking full responsibility for one's own actions and expecting nothing in return. Now what person are you going to be?!!!

Lessons parents can learn from divorced children

Let me make it very clear. Single parents do not have it all together. If you think that then perhaps you need to take off the purple colored sunglasses and take a long hard look. Reality is simply that being a single parent is a tough job and not for the weak in heart.When a child is sick you have to deal with it and you alone forget about sleep after all it is so overrated.... When food needs to be done and you are married you may have the option of eating out,but in general not as a single parent every penny counts. Chores are often not given because some are stay at home mothers and even dad's and perhaps we feel bad when homework is building to expect things to be picked up, often just learning to be polite is put on the back shelf so as not to upset your dear child as you think or tell yourself you want the best. But is that? Where did Please and Thank you go? Reality is that most single parents have not got it all together many have trained themselves well to balance multiple jobs with little praise. One thing I have seen is that single mothers often give their children responsibilities that others may not give them. The chance to learn to make food, everyone pitching in to raise money to go out. The chance to learn to keep a clean house, or even the ability to understand the idea of a budget, wow now that is an idea. So as I type here perhaps children from divorced homes do have an edge over one's from parents that are together. Yes they both have valuable assets. But the assets of life and learning to get along with become not an option but a tool to learn how to solve issues and problems and those will go with them for life and single parents have to work at these issues daily with their children none can be swept under the carpet. So before you look the other way at a family who is now a single parenting family perhaps you should look and watch how well balanced many of those children are. See it is easy to sit back and not allow your children to grow up but single parents do not have that option they have to make sure that all is done and in doing that they can provide their children some valuable life lessons from cooking to gardening to budgeting. Perhaps indeed I could of been taught a lesson or two from a single parent.

Think once,twice and then again before you file divorce.

Think twice and then twice again. Actions speak louder than words I have heard that one all my life. So as I sit here I think back to many times when my emotions or what I thought was getting back at the world was justified. The older I have got the more I realize that one needs to think once, twice and then talk with someone that can see how your actions are going to affect another. In divorce actions hurt so many people. It is interesting if we took all that time into thinking how to build a marriage up or how to spend quality time with another perhaps the outcome would of been different. In truth we can spend more time in a divorce tearing the other down than perhaps we did in the marriage building the other up. My parents would of been married 58 years this year and me 20. Sad to say I never saw my parents spend quality time together and I can say the same that my ex spouse and I spent little quality time together. It is a tough road once you are on the road of divorce no one tells you to much about regrets or mistakes they made it is in general swept under the carpet and one often can focus on all the bad. If I look back at my parents marriage they were indeed very similar, if I look back on my own we had the qualities that the other needed but never bothered to see that. So my advice before you file think once, twice and then again. Once done the hurt the pain is in motion and to be honest you may live with that regret forever.