Be encouraged.

Well it has been a long week and I will have to say I am exhausted. With studying, working, yard sales and cutting grass I am exhausted. I think it is probably the way it is for many single families. As I sit here typing I am reminded of how blessed I am I have often looked out of the window and seen bunnies playing in my yard and enjoyed the simple pleasures of life. I use to love the countryside as a child and today I am reminded of the many reasons why I loved it.

Lots of people I know are headed to England this summer and my heart yearns to see my family and see my home land. But I do know that a day will come when I get to go home. I am so blessed in many ways to type on this blog and to be around many people who have loved and embraced my family I am blessed. I encourage you whatever is going on find something you can be thankful for and focus on that. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Be postive

I have had much advice given me over my life and over the last few years. But none has been so wrong as been told to think of the worst thing that could happen to dwell on that and then it will not happen. The Bible says. Philippians 4:8-9 New International Version (NIV) 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Many times this is hard. But to dwell on negative thoughts only hurts yourself it pulls you down and traps you into a place of loneliness. So today I encourage you to think on good thinks. Be around people who see the good in you and your life. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

Not been bitter is not always easy and taking things as a personal attack on yourself is way to easy to do. In life there is a simple rule don't sweat the small stuff often easy to say hard to do. But if I take my own life to many times do I get stuck in listening to the nasty comments I have heard all my life instead of focusing on the good that people have done. I suggest that this weekend you don't sweat the small stuff and focus on the good it sure makes you feel better. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

God will not let go of you single mum.

Single mothers face so many challenges. Many women who become single mothers have stayed home. Working long hours to make sure that their children are fed and clothed and that a house runs smoothly. May sound 1950 ish but to many of us we loved it. We played a number of roles from cheer leader to nurse to home budgeter, we have done it all. But then comes that day when you are no longer married and you have the house payment, grocery shopping and sorting out everyone's emotions including your own. It is a time when there is no time to be yourself, and yet you have to get on your feet fast and face a new day. Dreams are shattered and life happens for me my sister in law and brother died all within less than two years. It is a road full of many valleys and many blessings at times. You feel comfort in a smile or someone sharing that they have walked down your road and cried tears too. You see children who have survived and in your heart you cry out to an almighty God "Don't let go of me".You feel so alone and in crying out there is a single hope that He alone will help you through the journey. It is a lamenting of the soul. It is a cry I would imagine every human being makes at times in their lives. I will have to say in the valleys don't stop crying out. We all need people and it is in crying a many a tear I believe that we find hope. So to all single mum's I have a few words to say. You are amazing and God will not let you go. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Single mum's

This weekend is mothers day in America and as in many parts of the world. The single mum and widow face a tough day. How many families will go to church or go out to dinner and rightfully so but the single mum often faces a pizza or a lonely room. Her days are covered with wondering how bills will be paid and working through decisions that once she did not carry alone. I never understood how hard it was. I spoke to a woman I knew years ago and she too expressed the hard road it was. In America the road I think is exceptionally hard no free medical and public transport is none exsistant in many a place. It is like you feel like you cry out for charity. You sit on the side of the road crying and yet in those tears their can be tears of healing. A fork in a road is only that it is a place where a person can move on with memories and wisdom or stay and move on looking and feeling bitter and in that decision they lose the chance of a better future. Single mum's face a road like no other it is a road of tears and hardship and then at other times sheer joy that at least you tried your best. When the world seems so against you it is there in that moment you keep fighting just a little longer with the hope that another will come that will be brighter. I wished I had offered to help more cry more or listen more to the single mum or widow and with everything in me I am so sorry I never did. But that been said we all can make a difference if you know a single mum reach out to her help her cut the grass. Let her cry on your shoulder, take her out, buy groceries and as you do as she blossoms and grows you too will change and see that life is not always roses and that a single mum is just a woman that needs a little help to be on a new road. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Car issue....escapes

Car issues seam never ending. I often wonder what it would be like to own a band new car. My brother was blessed to have a brand new car several times in his life. I have often made up stories about a donkey called Fred and how it transports a family around. As a child I always wanted a donkey. I think it sure has it's advantages. I think in that tranquil moment when I escape into my stories there along the West Runton shores in England I find me. It is a simple life, not much happens there and life is pretty care free. Perhaps one day I will live that dream I hope so. So if you are facing car issues or such today perhaps it would help you to make up stories. It has helped me many times to just find me. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Help each other through the hard times

It's been a hard road these past now five years and often at times I wonder how I will get through it. I have cried many a tear and had many an aching heart. But in those times i do know that some how some way God will help me through it. When my brother died I meet a wonderful woman she was like a mother type and she helped me through my brothers death. I felt like her loss many years ago helped me to see hope. As I face another battle it appears I hope God sends someone to hold me through this one. We all need someone none of us can make it alone. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 NIV This verse is true. Often I forget to be thankful. I took a lot for granted and for that I am sorry. I encourage you to to look around in your churches where ever and see if someone could do with a little help and support. You will never know how much that will mean to them. Just to have someone say hello. Please have a cup of tea with me today.