Missing in action.

When you hear those words "Missing in Action," it conjures up people lost in war and to me the thought of people at home wondering if their loved ones are still alive. In today's world, I would like you to think a bit outside the box. I see so many people who do not bother to take the time of day to put down their phone and just talk or listen to acquaint themselves with another person. Where has that time gone where a pie was given to a sick neighbor or someone just talk to you in a store? I have sat at many doctor's surgeries and stood in line at grocery stores and it is my conclusion that there is a new Missing in Action in today's world. MIA is all around us politeness falls to the ground and NO NO parents don't just blame your children, you are their example, the one that stands at a grocery line talking out schedules on your phone with your teen, or telling them hush be quiet as you gossip down the phone. At least years ago many who gossiped were pegging out their washing on a washing line. MIA is all around us. Missing in action not caring about another person too involved in their own self centered life to be polite to smile to see another person's expression. Missing in action is all around us and is spreading how sad a life we live in that we can only see ourselves and not realize that we are the ones who are missing in action, missing out in life, missing seeing life, missing out what life might have given you. Missing in action is all around us so what are you going to do about it!! Don't be missing in action when God calls you home because he won't wait for you to text or facebook. The question is how important are others to you!

! Missing in action in our time can be an option it is up to YOU!!!

Is the phone your carrying serving just I?

As I sit here not feeling the best I am reminded how fragile and short life truly is. I used to love writing on this blog until a person told me that I could be spending my time more wisely, I felt my only world where I felt I could do something I enjoyed destroyed. But how many times do we destroy people's worlds without a second thought. When my brother died a week after he died I was asked if I had gotten over his death....in those words I want to hit them. But truly sometimes people are plain thoughtless and do not realize that their words destroy people. I see people at doctor's surgery, through check out lines all so busy checking their Iphones too busy to be polite too busy to take the time to see a smile or catch a conversation that may better their lives. They call this technology I call it a step back in time. People caring enough to take a few moments to ask are you alright or to help someone across the road or to just pray. Have we as human beings forgot what it is like to be that, simply human or are we all just so self centered that our lives have to be focused on us? I have prayed for people I have not known stood hugging a person that was just so overwhelmed with life,yet I sit here with no regrets for that. I don't have an Iphone and yes I think it would be nice but if that Iphone makes me focus on I then it is nothing but a trick from hell to focus my whole life on missing out on reaching others. The I you would think in Iphone would bring us closer to information a way to reach out but it doesn't. To many it makes them more inward more about them. So think next time you reach for your Iphone. Could you be missing out on an opportunity or are you just serving I?

2014

When I look back at 2013 I sit and see that it sure ended up not as I expected. I kind of dreaded the year to be honest the dreaded 13. God sure had plans for me and so to be honest as the year ended I felt rather sad. I am glad I am going to college now wished I had gone years ago. This year I hope to learn french. I did it at school but hated it. This time I really want to learn it and use it to reach others. I am also going to try and get my stories published again. I sure hope God leads me to the right people. I think life is much better if you just say God here I am. So I encourage you

this year to ask God where He wants you to go and let Him guide your steps the year may not be what you had planned but when you look back perhaps it will make you see His bigger picture. Wishing you all a wonderful New Year. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Friendship and life

My sister and I are seven years apart, we shared a room as children. She probably hated it more than me. I would keep her awake at night, not wanting to be the last one asleep. We eventually had our own rooms her a smaller room which to me now looking back appears totally unfair as she was older. She never complained about her room or about me keeping her awake. She would decorate our room at Christmas and put up with me forever cleaning my cupboard out. At age five I had a horrible room, we had this room that was the lounge and our parents decided to divide into our room, but I had the side with not much light. So I would sleep on the floor on my sisters side. She was my protector and the one that put up with me. Years have gone by since those days of sharing a bedroom and as I sit and look back it was such a fragment of time. I live along way from her now and yet I will always love and care for her. It's interesting life can be when our brother died I think it made us realize what we had in each other and I am thankful for that. See friendship and caring for each other does not come in age groups it comes in being there listening wanting the best. I have a friend Sharon who is quite younger than me and I would do so much for her because she is amazing just wonderful she has listened to me cry down the phone and prayed for me and always just loves me for me. Friends have sent gifts from England when I was homesick and others helped with yard sales to make money to go home. It is not in just words we find true friends and true bonds it is being there always to care and love each other through good bad and ugly times to hold someones hands and say you are going to be alright when their world is falling apart is priceless. My sister and all those memories are to me just as present today as yesterday because a few things have not changed I love her more today than yesterday, she will always be my sister and no one can take that away and I understand just a little more today about her. So for that I am grateful. So even you live miles away for now from friends and family take the moment to remember the good and just listen to someone else you might give them hope in more ways than you would ever know. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

Change

I absolutely hate change and yet my life has been nothing but change.My parents divorced good or bad as that was. In my mind I wanted the home I grew up in as a teen to always be ours, a place to always come home to. When I visited it six years ago I found myself so wanting my family to be there and not the new owners who had don up the house. Then in my own life I wanted the classic family that went on holidays and were forever there for each. I did get that in my children, just not in my marriage. And so again as my sister moves I find myself not wanting change. The familiarity of her home and the faces now all grown up and her life has changed, not by her choice but by life and so they have to move and I find myself grieving yet another loss in my life. Not like a death but a one yearning for something to just stay the same. I have a friend who has not moved from her Village and years ago I would of thought that this was very square and absolutely boring yet now the older I am I realize that this is pure heaven. She has been able to bring up her children with traditions from the past and present and embodied in them the value of her life and the things that hold true to her. It is those things not a television or computer that she and her husband have managed to bring up four amazing young ladies, with strong family values, believes and traditions. Yet so many of us are drawn to move and find adventure. In looking at my life I believe that adventure can be found around us and that perhaps we lose out on many blessings by always wanting more and go out into this world to find it. Change can be good but perhaps in seeing how my friend has embraced lives changes and combined the past, there is a sense of harmony and that no one can put a price too. Please have a cup of tea with me today.

College at forty-six years old.

Well I took a leap of faith, or stupidity some might say and signed up for college. I was accepted at a very prestigious college however these colleges often do not bare into their factors that one might not want to end up with owing loads of money. It appears that they are oblivious to the fact that one has to eat and survive four years and then at the end if you took out their massive loans you would be paying it back beyond your life time. So I went to a local

college. I felt out of place in a world of hustle and bustle of young people, but I sucked it up and went on my first day. Parking was absolutely awful and I had to ask a young man to park my car. I have found that balancing my life is a huge balancing act. Some of the young people in my class appear to talk more than take it seriously. My life is ticking by and I am running this race asking God to direct me and open up doors for me. As I sit here I have to type up another essay today for one of my classes. To the many who venture to get a degree at an older age I encourage you not to think of yourself as a disadvantage more that you are more mature and perhaps value life more. More that you have something amazing to give the world. I might be forty six but that is just a number and does not reflect what I as a person can give to this world and neither should your age. So go for whatever dreams you have and fly high. Pleas have a cup of tea with me today.

Believing in Yourself

We can stand and feel courageous. We aren't meant to feel belittled, or small, or like nothing. We are meant to feel like with God we can achieve great things, anything. Sometimes through trials, it is easy to feel like our world is a wall just crumbling. But we aren't meant to feel that way. We are supposed to use those crumbling stones as stepping stones to something better. Maybe we went through a trial so we can finally see how others are struggling and how even with an encouraging word you can help them. Maybe it was or will be to bring you to something better beyond your wildest dreams. One of my favourite verses is in 1 Peter 5:10 which says, "And the God of all grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself Restore you and make you Strong, Firm, and Steadfast." God not only is with us through everything but also is there to help us through it and after it. He is there for us. When life seems to rock our world, we need to stand strong together in God who can bring us through it and will always be there to help us. We should stand Courgeously.

Please have a cup of tea with me today. Em