Brexit Shame. Notes from my pocket

Brexit I will have to say strongly my family and I were happy to say we supported the exit of the United Kingdom from the EU. However since Friday mornings announcement I believe there has been nothing but shameful behavior on both sides. Donald Trump stood in Scotland and answered questions to do with the Brexit saying: Donald J. Trump ✔ @realDonaldTrump "Just arrived in Scotland. Place is going wild over the vote. They took their country back, just like we will take America back. No games!" It amazes me that people point and laugh at Mr.Trump however he was perhaps the only one person who stood and said something to be proud of on Brexit day. He did not diminish the right for people to make their own decision about their country. Mr. Obama however who had said that England would be at the back on the line when visiting prior to the actual vote and count then on Friday decided to change his view and say President Barack Obama said Friday that the U.K. vote to leave the European Union would not change the “special relationship” the country has with the United States. But Mr. Trumps view stayed the same that England was better to have it's country back and Mr. Obama changed his view. The leave party said hardly anything they did not address the fears of both sides of the nation in it's hour of need and Mr. Cameron decided to resign which meant that leaving would be postponed until a new Prime Minister came into power. There was nothing to assure to the world that the United Kingdom was United yes in votes we were divided but it was the place of these men who asked the country to vote to calm the nations fear. Scotland's Prime Minister has now continued to create in my opinion utter fear yes Scotland voted out but they are still part of the United Kingdom it is her place to calm the fears get behind the vote and move on. AS a parent one does not say to a child that has cut themselves hold on while I get my back up it, it will be four months a parent steps up to the plate and calms the fears of that child. Life does not always allow us the luxury to say something or have a four month to do nothing. A person dying does not have the chance to say hold on their life is counting down and like it or not their time is going to be gone. Christ did not turn His back on us He died on the cross for us. Churchill did not say to the Dunkirk evacuation stay there I will come back to you in four months. Nor did King George after his brothers abdication say no I don't want to do that. In life we often have to think on our feet and do what is best. Yes this is the United Kingdom but as a single mother who makes decisions daily of how I can survive I find it shameful the behavior of the country's political powers to not unit the nation and calm the fears of it's people. Fear is the root of destruction. The EU is right get on with it United Kingdom. I say to those people in power perhaps the common person has more clue than all of you, a single mother would not let her child be standing in fear for over three days but would have got up regardless of her own fears and calmed her child. SO Bloody get on with it and make our nation proud not living in Fear while you all grow up.

Brexit. Notes from my pocket

Brexit the name that has created fear across the United kingdom and the world. As a divorced woman I lived in fear for years and at times when things get tough I return back to that in my mind of being fearful of what is going to happen. The reality is freedom comes by telling fear where to go. I am not saying life is always that simple. But often what we fear the most can be a blessing. Think if we lived in fear all our lives countries would not have been found, the moon would never have been visited, I would never have got on a plane and people would still think the world was square. The move to Brexit was a decision by a nation,it was a decision called to by the Prime Minister of England and sometimes in life it does not always go your way. Instead of people complaining and pointing the finger and quitting they should view change is good. Change can mean new things can happen, better things can be achieved, new dreams made. For me I became a better person, for me life was not always on about wondering how one person was going to react to me. Brexit is like a divorce, many people have walked through divorce and lived and actually live a happier life. Fear is the devil of lies. So I say Wake up United Kingdom and make your country proud change has been decided now embrace the good what will happen. Rome was not built in one day neither were wars won in one day but life moves on. Churchill brought a nation together and so the United Kingdom will live again. Just as I have lived again. Thank you Brexit for showing me that I can move on. So move on United kingdom and make us proud.

Notes from my pocket: Single mothers on fathers day.

We all want to be loved, from the moment we are born we are forever searching for Love. We grow up in homes that might well give us that love we are seeking or perhaps like me you were brought up in a home where your parents argued 24/7. My parents divorced when I was 15. I was 26 when I got married I thought that by marrying someone who was I thought so more outgoing than me I would find love but the longer I stayed in the longer I found me losing my own identity and all of a sudden my dreams were just lost. Lies upon lies deception upon deception and feeling like everything I had value had to change. 18 years on divorced in another country and two kids. Loneliness hit like so many other single mum's. We question were we not good enough, why couldn't someone love me. Bills come and bills go and this pressure of hearing someone say your not good enough rings through your brain. It amazes me looking back how my own mother is still alive she divorced after 26 years and then her own son pulled her to pieces she has nothing in fact poverty and her walk hand in hand yet the days she is nice she is one of the most amazing women that I know. She has walked streets with only 10 pence in her pocket yet she still keeps going. Me I have tried to sell cupcakes, dog bow ties and written kids stories you name it I have tried. Yet the single mother and her journey is a very lonely journey the weight of bills of playing a double duty parent lays heavy. I am not alone our roads cross in the super market and our journey is of survival. The fathers we wanted for our kids to have may never exists yet we must press on knowing that there is a day that all our tears will not be in vain and that the times we felt so alone perhaps indeed God was carrying us. Fathers Day to me means what I wanted so much to be loved by my dad and my ex is found in someone who does care for me. It is true I wished to God that I could go back to England, buy new glasses and not worry about money, but above all that i wish I could give back to all us single mum's and just some how give them hope. Today 6 years on I place online my wedding dress a day of hope I thought, well perhaps it was i gained two amazing kids and to be honest if I had not gone through all this pain maybe I would not have seen who I was. Go find yourself, you maybe a single mum but you girl are amazing the strength that a single mother has is like a lion defending her cub it is like a wind calming the storm and it is truly like an Angel who may have been bruised in battle yet can still fly and above all a phoenix that flies out of the ashes. Go fly.

Please Dad....notes from my pocket

Many of us have watched the movie "Oliver" and heard those familiar words being said when Oliver asks for more food, "Please Sir". Perhaps many of us can relate to Oliver. As a child, I don't really remember doing too much with my Dad. I went on walks and I love those memories, but perhaps for me and my two siblings, we felt like Oliver asking, "Please Dad spend some time with us." As an adult, I feel like that most of the time with my Dad when I talk to him. A part of me has grown to just accept that he has time for himself and very little time for my life. Sad reality many children feel like this by their dad. Those from divorced homes feel like that: they are begging their dad to just really love them, without their Dad going on about himself. Truth is we all need a dad to love us and often our own dad cannot and does not live up to our expectations and needs. What to do? I have found myself thinking about this. Truth is when our Dads have nothing to give us, our hearts do not have to feel empty. God alone can fill the gap: it is not easy, as the gap is like a huge ocean and hearts are often so hurt. I do believe little by little if we trust in God that massive void can be filled with trust and so when we say, "Please Dad," we will not receive a bowl full of excuses or manipulation but a peace that we are going to be all right. I wished I had a magic wand to fill all the voids; however my wand would only bring a moment of healing. I know through all my tears that My Dad, my true Father (God), is the only One that truly will love and make me know that my void in my life is for Him to fill and for Him to guide me. Don't let one man leave your life with a void, instead allow one Father to carry you and fill your life.